Coming out to my grandmother

Coming Out

Below is the letter I wrote my grandmother when I came out to her. She is a Korean Catholic woman who immigrated here in the lat 1960s and I was absolutely terrified to tell her about my transness.

Please note that this letter is from 2015, before I’d really found all the words to describe myself. I would now NOT say “I was born female” and instead describe this as “I was assigned female at birth.” I would also not say “transitioning to male” and instead describe this as, “I am transitioning and changing my body for alignment.”

2015.05.22 Halmoni Letter

Also check out this video in which I explain how she reacted:


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